Comments on: Choose Your Life Mondays – The Sad Swamp http://www.comfortqueen.com/choose-your-life-mondays-feeling-sad Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:06:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Laney http://www.comfortqueen.com/choose-your-life-mondays-feeling-sad/comment-page-1#comment-3612 Laney Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:09:41 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2733#comment-3612 Jen, I wish my parents had put that much thought & care toward me & my sister when they were getting divorced. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother who is present in her life- physically & emotionally. She'll appreciate it more when she is older. She'll remember how you were there for her, comforting her, putting her needs first. Once again, your honesty has touched my heart. Thank you! Jen, I wish my parents had put that much thought & care toward me & my sister when they were getting divorced. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother who is present in her life- physically & emotionally. She’ll appreciate it more when she is older. She’ll remember how you were there for her, comforting her, putting her needs first. Once again, your honesty has touched my heart. Thank you!

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.comfortqueen.com/choose-your-life-mondays-feeling-sad/comment-page-1#comment-3608 Jennifer Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:13:42 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2733#comment-3608 Oh Esse and Linda, my heart goes out to you. Wish I could give you a big long hug. Let us all look for the good, the delight, the light no matter what. Thank you for your kind comments, too. Thanks everybody. Oh Esse and Linda, my heart goes out to you. Wish I could give you a big long hug. Let us all look for the good, the delight, the light no matter what. Thank you for your kind comments, too. Thanks everybody.

]]> By: Mary Jo http://www.comfortqueen.com/choose-your-life-mondays-feeling-sad/comment-page-1#comment-3603 Mary Jo Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:54:02 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2733#comment-3603 Jen, Your post moved me so very deeply. Thank you for your willingness to let us in on your struggles and triumphs. Love, Mary Jo Jen,
Your post moved me so very deeply. Thank you for your willingness to let us in on your struggles and triumphs.

Love,
Mary Jo

]]> By: Linda http://www.comfortqueen.com/choose-your-life-mondays-feeling-sad/comment-page-1#comment-3601 Linda Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:35:14 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2733#comment-3601 My Father died on October 7th of this year. He spent the past 2 years in a nursing home, slowly declining, so I can relate to the sense of relief. I am also often overwhelmed with "Whys, what ifs". My parents divorced many years ago, my Mom still holds bitterness for him, so it is so healing that you are able to give Lily the gift of your willingness to stay open in this new blending of family. My Mom's ongoing illnesses are no doubt a result of the years of her refusal to forgive, him and herself. I have lost a Father, and in many ways my Mother as well. I don't even dare share the news of his passing or my grief with her. Doing my best to practice "loving kindess" but some days it is hard. I have been avoiding the sad swamp. Oh I know it is there, I feel like I am circling it daily. Just so afraid that if I dip one toe in I will be soon at the bottom of it with a rock tied to my feet. Thank you Jen for providing a safe place to open our hearts, and show our wounds. Namaste My Father died on October 7th of this year. He spent the past 2 years in a nursing home, slowly declining, so I can relate to the sense of relief. I am also often overwhelmed with “Whys, what ifs”. My parents divorced many years ago, my Mom still holds bitterness for him, so it is so healing that you are able to give Lily the gift of your willingness to stay open in this new blending of family. My Mom’s ongoing illnesses are no doubt a result of the years of her refusal to forgive, him and herself. I have lost a Father, and in many ways my Mother as well. I don’t even dare share the news of his passing or my grief with her. Doing my best to practice “loving kindess” but some days it is hard. I have been avoiding the sad swamp. Oh I know it is there, I feel like I am circling it daily. Just so afraid that if I dip one toe in I will be soon at the bottom of it with a rock tied to my feet. Thank you Jen for providing a safe place to open our hearts, and show our wounds.
Namaste

]]> By: Beth Maloney http://www.comfortqueen.com/choose-your-life-mondays-feeling-sad/comment-page-1#comment-3599 Beth Maloney Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:19:36 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2733#comment-3599 Jen, Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Sadness is a sorrowful companion that I have spent incredible amounts of energy and time trying to avoid, yet it lingered waiting to be examined. When I found the courage to look in the heart of MY sadness, I discovered a relationship to "expectations" that I carried of what Marraige "should" look like.. and what family "should" look like. Recognizing the wonderful parts of what is, and letting go of the fantasy of what I "expected" has greatly diminished the sadness I carry. :) Jen,
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Sadness is a sorrowful companion that I have spent incredible amounts of energy and time trying to avoid, yet it lingered waiting to be examined.

When I found the courage to look in the heart of MY sadness, I discovered a relationship to “expectations” that I carried of what Marraige “should” look like.. and what family “should” look like. Recognizing the wonderful parts of what is, and letting go of the fantasy of what I “expected” has greatly diminished the sadness I carry.
:)

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