Comments on: Choose Your Life Mondays – the Depletion Edition

By: Jen and Dr. Jennifer Talk Soloprenuers, Hungry Ghosts, Distorted Auras & More: Part 1 » Comfort Queen

Wed, 03 Feb 2010 07:04:48 +0000

[...] then takes a deep breath and wonders what she has gotten herself into) Jen, you know there are so many layers to feeling stuck and burned out. One layer is that I would have my clients look at their business in general and how it is [...]

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 20:22:05 +0000

@Renee, hardly adored by millions but if you could arrange for that, I’d appreciate it.

@Gayle, I’m not the light, you are. Otherwise you couldn’t see mine.

@Susan – tell me about being selfish, I want to know more so I can pass it on.

@Linda – oh honey, I wish you boundaries with your mother and a crowbar to get that “selfish” voice out of your head. YOU ARE NOT SELFIsh. You are entitled to have a life of your own. What one thing could you do today for just you?

What wise women each of you are. Thank you for reading my words.

By: Linda

Linda — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:42:29 +0000

I have bee dragging myself around for days, forcing everything I must do. Maribeth’s comment about her Mother really made me take notice. My Mother has been ill for as long as I can remember, and I have been her support system. She loves to tell her friends how wonderful and strong I am, how I take care of everyone. The few times I have put myself anywhere on the “list of things that need care” I have heard the not so subtle message from her and the nasty little brat in my head that I am being selfish. The message that I got from my mother as a child was that nobody likes a show off. Mom teases me about how someday she expects me to run away from home. If she only knew….It has taken me 5 years to finally get myself to a doctor to address some physical issues that I have been avoiding, if I break down who takes over? And her neediness leaves no room for me, and the last thing I want to be is like her. So, thanks Jen for reminding me that depletion is another way to self sabotage. Now, I am off to make a cup of tea and ignore the dishes in the sink! Tomorrow I see the doctor again, and will take care of my needs for a change.

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 16:51:40 +0000

Sometimes I feel like I must be the only selfish woman in America! Years ago, in another life when I was teaching and painting I made the not-so-astounding discovery that creativity took time and energy. A year or two later I read Germaine Greer’s “The Obstacle Course”. It’s all about how women’s lives can block their creativity and sucess. I decided I didn’t want to be my own worst enemy. I have always allowed myself the time, space and permission to be creative. I have allowed myself to grow and gain both competence and confidence. First in art, then in business and now writing.

I have had to make trade-offs but all in all I have had and continue to have a wonderful life. Good luck to from the most selfish woman in America.(Sounds like a catchy title for a blog!)

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Tue, 26 Jan 2010 03:55:29 +0000

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