Comments on: Freedom From Self-Improvement: No More Fear-Based Marketing http://www.comfortqueen.com/freedom-from-self-improvement-no-more-fear-based-marketing Wed, 28 Sep 2011 16:13:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Michael http://www.comfortqueen.com/freedom-from-self-improvement-no-more-fear-based-marketing/comment-page-1#comment-3465 Michael Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:07:31 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2184#comment-3465 Jennifer, You're so right - It's so easy to fall into the self-help you're-not-good-enough trap. Every single one of us are constantly able to grow and learn, doesn't mean we have to. Not to mention very little learning happens when we are forced to learn something... Jennifer,

You’re so right – It’s so easy to fall into the self-help you’re-not-good-enough trap.

Every single one of us are constantly able to grow and learn, doesn’t mean we have to. Not to mention very little learning happens when we are forced to learn something…

]]> By: char http://www.comfortqueen.com/freedom-from-self-improvement-no-more-fear-based-marketing/comment-page-1#comment-3453 char Sat, 12 Sep 2009 02:50:34 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2184#comment-3453 I've only skimmed the comments and intend to read them more carefully later. I just wanted to say - before I forget - that the one that gets me the most is those comments from marketing professionals who incidentally mentioned that they just got a (fill in the blank)- something completely luxurious or unnecessary in my mind, like a 3rd nose ring or a new age-y massage that lasted 3 hours - and then go on to say how they love what they do so much. They are much more subtle than to say that "you can have this too." Instead, they may talk about how they've made errors with their staff and other humble things on their way to learning. It feels (and I know that my feelings may have nothing to do with their intent) manipulative to me - seems there is a recipe there. 1 part humility 1 part mistakes 1 part genuine spirituality 1/2 part unnecessary luxury and the result is- an imperfect business that they are running, while making a profit. the inference is follow me and you can practice your genuine humility, mistakes and spirituality and make a profit. you can make the same mistakes, be humble and indulge in your own "unnecessary luxuries" there may not be a direct request like "buy my product so you can live this life" - it's hard to put my finger on what it is that makes me feel urgent, inadequate and that this is the fix that will solve all my problems. what i can say is that now that you've described the symptoms of this so clearly, i can spot that recipe more easily. i have a moratorium on any marketing products other than the ones i own right now. since i'm not broken and i have more than enough marketing products, if i need a resource i have plenty of tools available. the biggest resource is me - and your freedom from self improvement week has helped me see that i can trust that resource. i do these exercise dvd's and the instructor says "you can't do this wrong. if you go left and i go right, what's the difference." - that's my attitude about everything in my life. i now know i can't do this wrong. i'll learn things no matter what i do - or don't do. jen - you're too awesome for words. thanks so much. I’ve only skimmed the comments and intend to read them more carefully later. I just wanted to say – before I forget – that the one that gets me the most is those comments from marketing professionals who incidentally mentioned that they just got a (fill in the blank)- something completely luxurious or unnecessary in my mind, like a 3rd nose ring or a new age-y massage that lasted 3 hours – and then go on to say how they love what they do so much.
They are much more subtle than to say that “you can have this too.” Instead, they may talk about how they’ve made errors with their staff and other humble things on their way to learning.
It feels (and I know that my feelings may have nothing to do with their intent) manipulative to me – seems there is a recipe there.
1 part humility
1 part mistakes
1 part genuine spirituality
1/2 part unnecessary luxury
and the result is-
an imperfect business that they are running, while making a profit. the inference is follow me and you can practice your genuine humility, mistakes and spirituality and make a profit. you can make the same mistakes, be humble and indulge in your own “unnecessary luxuries”
there may not be a direct request like “buy my product so you can live this life” – it’s hard to put my finger on what it is that makes me feel urgent, inadequate and that this is the fix that will solve all my problems.
what i can say is that now that you’ve described the symptoms of this so clearly, i can spot that recipe more easily.
i have a moratorium on any marketing products other than the ones i own right now.
since i’m not broken and i have more than enough marketing products, if i need a resource i have plenty of tools available.
the biggest resource is me – and your freedom from self improvement week has helped me see that i can trust that resource.
i do these exercise dvd’s and the instructor says “you can’t do this wrong. if you go left and i go right, what’s the difference.” – that’s my attitude about everything in my life.
i now know i can’t do this wrong.
i’ll learn things no matter what i do – or don’t do.
jen – you’re too awesome for words. thanks so much.

]]> By: Vicky White http://www.comfortqueen.com/freedom-from-self-improvement-no-more-fear-based-marketing/comment-page-1#comment-3425 Vicky White Fri, 11 Sep 2009 15:01:19 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2184#comment-3425 Thanks Jen for this wonderful post. I know I find marketing really tricky - wanting to find that place of sharing what I have to offer with those who might benefit, and knowing people don't read everything that arrives in their Inboxes so I can't just mention it once - always searching for that balance and being kind to myself when I don't get it right. I do feel it's all about remembering who we really are - who I really am! When we remember who we really are, we're limitless, joyful and abundant too - it's all there. Just need to get out of my own way sometimes! And surround myself with people who remind me when I forget! Thanks Jen for this wonderful post. I know I find marketing really tricky – wanting to find that place of sharing what I have to offer with those who might benefit, and knowing people don’t read everything that arrives in their Inboxes so I can’t just mention it once – always searching for that balance and being kind to myself when I don’t get it right.

I do feel it’s all about remembering who we really are – who I really am!

When we remember who we really are, we’re limitless, joyful and abundant too – it’s all there.

Just need to get out of my own way sometimes! And surround myself with people who remind me when I forget!

]]> By: Erica http://www.comfortqueen.com/freedom-from-self-improvement-no-more-fear-based-marketing/comment-page-1#comment-3419 Erica Fri, 11 Sep 2009 13:07:36 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/?p=2184#comment-3419 I just canceled a subscription to one of these "classes" yesterday. It's not usually my thing, but I was reading a lot of internet business blogs, I'm in the middle of a mild career path crisis, and in a vulnerable moment I caved. I didn't find what I wanted, and I was generally turned off by the content, but I couldn't explain why. Unsubscribing was way more difficult than I'd anticipated, and it was a real moment of clarity to see how easy it is to fall into the fear mindset. Thanks for putting your finger on the things that were disturbing me about this experience; I hadn't gotten that far yet, and I appreciate the leg up! I just canceled a subscription to one of these “classes” yesterday. It’s not usually my thing, but I was reading a lot of internet business blogs, I’m in the middle of a mild career path crisis, and in a vulnerable moment I caved. I didn’t find what I wanted, and I was generally turned off by the content, but I couldn’t explain why. Unsubscribing was way more difficult than I’d anticipated, and it was a real moment of clarity to see how easy it is to fall into the fear mindset. Thanks for putting your finger on the things that were disturbing me about this experience; I hadn’t gotten that far yet, and I appreciate the leg up!

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