Declaration of Freedom From Self-Improvement
When, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary to dissolve the emotional, physical and spiritual bonds that have connected us to struggle, self-doubt, self-judgment and lack of self-trust through a pernicious intent to improve upon ourselves.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all people are created equal and are, at their core, essentially good, and that this goodness is always present and always available to each of us. That we are endowed by Life with certain unalienable Rights, and that among these are the ability to Choose, to Love, and to be Self-Accepting.
We hold these truths to be self-evident.
Thus each under signed does publicly declare that:
One means to access and live from our essential goodness is through an embracing of What Is, right now, just as it is.
That whenever any Form of Self-Improvement becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People (that would be us) to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new philosophies and ways of perceiving and seeing;
But, when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object (self-improvement with an aim to become finally good enough) devolves into Self-Despotism, it is our right and duty, to throw off such Self-Improvement, and to recognize, and rest, in our essential goodness, our natural wisdom and compassion.
We, the undersigned, do hereby agree that for the month of September and longer if we so choose, we will cease and desist from self-improving behaviors intended to deride, belittle, abuse, or otherwise reject our essential goodness.
When we falter in this effort, we will embrace our missteps with love, gratitude, and compassion, realizing that we are, at our core, absolutely good and lovable – that we are love – exactly as we are in this moment.
Sign Our Declaration of Essential Goodness by leaving a comment below!
Last time we celebrated Freedom From Self-Improvement Day, we had over 500 signatures. How many people can we get to declare freedom this time?
Today’s Giveaway:
To be entered in today’s giveaway for a free copy of my latest book, The Life Organizer, and my famous Mood Changer audio experiences, sign the declaration by leaving a comment below.
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243 responses so far ↓
1 Leah Sep 7, 2009
I am taking more time to nurture me in the time that I am given. I don’t feel like I have to wait for everyone in the house to go to sleep before I can do something for myself. I make time for myself when I am at my best, not just when it won’t be an inconvienence for the rest of the family. I am important too. Thanks for the support. I enjoy the emails and the creative support.
2 Goddess Leonie Sep 7, 2009
Hear ye!
And Hear she!
And Amen
3 carole traole Sep 7, 2009
The thought of spending a week when I am consciously going to work on not trying to improve myself in any way, shape or form scares me! But I am willing to give it a go to get to the core of my perfectly imperfect self! And be free!
4 Christine Hohlbaum Sep 7, 2009
What great fun, Jen! Neat idea and I look forward to watching this week unfold with all that is ~even under the bed!
5 Debby Carrico Sep 7, 2009
This is the day for caring for my Mother, who is fragile and alone since my Daddy died. How do I get freedom from self-improvement? By relaxing in the country near a lake with her remembering the childhood days. Debby C.
6 Susana Sosa Sep 7, 2009
What a creative way to remind us of
the importance of embracing who and where we are at a particular time.
I look forward to the rest of the month!
Susana
7 Robin Sep 7, 2009
I do solemnly swear not to subject myself to supposed acts of kindness that are really just more ways to beat myself up. Thank you for the gentle reminder!
8 Anna Sep 7, 2009
I shall improve nothing on the self for the next 24 hours, nor will I peek in or at any self-improvement media. What freedom.
9 SUSAN LEARY Sep 7, 2009
I have been a self-improvement junkie all my life. Independence from SI might mean that I am OK the way I am? How cool!
10 Dora Sep 7, 2009
Jen,
I like this idea of freedom from self-improvement. However, I do think that you should come out from under the bed. You don’t look particularly comfortable. Free Jen from the bed!
11 Hope Flanagan Sep 7, 2009
I hereby sign this declaration.
12 Kay Sep 7, 2009
I’m all for the freedom to be just who we are, but you surely do look happy under that bed, Jen. I’m a little afraid to look under mine, and it’s not even dark out.
Long live us!
13 Thien-Kim Sep 7, 2009
Hear hear! I participated last year and will happily do it again!
14 marti Sep 7, 2009
It’s nice to hear that we can get under the bed every now and then. Thank you for the honesty of the post and the creative way to self care during the hiatus. Bravo and Blessings.
15 Carolyn Sep 7, 2009
Gratefully printed out and signed. And “signed” here as well. Thank you!
Carolyn
16 Christy Sep 7, 2009
I declare the Freedom from self-improvement. I declare to love me for who I am at this moment. Because you know what I am awesome in this moment and all the moments to come.
17 Phylliss Sep 7, 2009
I’m very surprised at how frightened I am by the idea of accepting myself just as I am and not working to fix anything!
18 jane Sep 7, 2009
I needed this reminder…
19 Nathan Sep 7, 2009
I’m in
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21 Evette Sep 7, 2009
I will participate in freeing myself from constant self-improvement! But right now I have to clean under this bed; gross! Oh, wait…
22 Jennifer Sep 7, 2009
I wasn’t that comfortable under the bed, until the end, when I relaxed. I talk with my hands and that didn’t really work.
It is frightening or disorienting to stop improving and rest in accepting ourselves… at first. With practice, it starts to feel like the most normal and real place to be in the world.
Thanks everybody for your comments!
23 Debra Sep 7, 2009
All my self improvement titles are being put in a box today and leaving my home-I am GOOD enough! Thank you for the reminder.
24 Sue Sep 7, 2009
Thanks! I needed that!!
25 Gretchen Sep 7, 2009
I hereby choose to see self improvement books and exercises as fairy maps and guideposts leading me along a path of self remembering. They are not locking me in a room with the Wicked Witch but rather giving the Powers That Be opportunities to give me gifts that I can’t see otherwise. So be it.
26 Kate Sep 7, 2009
Yeah! I’ll go for some of that! And now I’m off to tweet about it.
27 Linda Dessau Sep 7, 2009
I will release my perfectionism about doing things (even my self-care) at precise times on the hour or half-hour. Really, what does it matter? Let’s just do the self-caring acts, whenever they happen
28 Kristin Sep 7, 2009
’nuff said. I declare myself freeeee. Thanks Jen.
29 Gina Sep 7, 2009
You go girl!
30 Christy Sep 7, 2009
A wise friend once said that if “you can’t be happy where you are, you’ll never be happy where you’re headed.” I forget that too often.
Thanks for the reminder.
31 Joie Sep 7, 2009
FINALLY !! Relief from the ever present “you’re not quite good enough” messages we encounter on a too frequent basis – especially from those who want us to pay them to “fix” us!! While it is good to know that they are there and available, breathe in all that is already good and peaceful and perfect! Celebrate what is right and good and healthy within and treat our spirits like the brave, funny, creative essences they are! Thank you for the reminder Jen!!
(any dust bunnies under there??)
32 Janet Sep 7, 2009
Today I am enough. Today I choose to accept myself and all my nooks and crannies, and to return to this gentle commitment whenever I forget & remember. Thank you, Jen, for this nourishing reminder.
33 Alexia Sep 7, 2009
hm… definitely a different way to think. It’s difficult to focus on what’s “right” with me when “wrong” is all I’ve seen for years… Maybe I can try?
34 Brooke Thomas Sep 7, 2009
Glory, glory hallelujiah! Right on sista!
I think Pema Chodron said it best when she said that self improvement is a subtle form of aggression towards the self.
Glad to sign the declaration and take one more step away from all that un-needed aggression towards the self.
35 Lisa Sep 7, 2009
You under the bed. LOVED it! What a perfect place to release all things associated with perfectionism and self-improvement. I wish I could crawl under mine, but gosh darnit, the box spring and mattress sit on the floor. Maybe I’ll make a fort under the blankets any time this month I feel the need to be more than what I already am.
Thank you, Jen for giving me a good giggle this morning and for reminding me of my innate goodness. Love you!
36 Lisa Sep 7, 2009
I have been asking for guidance and inspirational words to share with my 20 year old daughter. Your declaration is the perfect fit! Freedom that makes you breathe deeply. respect what is.
37 Susan Sep 7, 2009
Today…This Day…I commit to nurturing my spirit and my body, regardless of the expectations and demands of others. It is in this manner that I allow myself to renew, center and balance my own energies. And I do this without guilt. YEAH
38 Tracy Sep 7, 2009
Today, when I feel the urge to self-improve (i.e. self-flagellate), I will practice breathing instead.
And maybe tomorrow, too.
39 Tricia Sep 7, 2009
Right on! I’m turning 40 this month and I think there is no better way to celebrate this milestone than with giving myself a break.
40 Terri Thayer Sep 7, 2009
I’m in. I’ve had enough self improvement for a lifetime.
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42 Havi Sep 7, 2009
Whew! Thank you! (Just turned 58 Saturday – maybe it IS time to accept myself as I am!)
43 rebecca Sep 7, 2009
I hereby sign the Declaration! What a terrific way to begin this new season.
44 Jacqueline Sep 7, 2009
Yeah! what they all said already. I too sign this declaration of being good enough already!
45 Briana Sep 7, 2009
Yay, love it. I always need these reminders, otherwise I fall into a feedback screech of rebellion. And the funny thing is that I especially need the reprieve whenever I’m grumpy or stuck, and isn’t that exactly the condition self-improvement is supposed to “solve”? So maybe allowing some freedom from it when I’m all exuberantly cheerful will be even more powerful!
46 Marcy Sep 7, 2009
Free to be you and me. When I know I am free from self improvement I will also recognize others are free from self improvement. This is very liberating!
47 Betty Sep 7, 2009
Hysterical..Love this concept and the video. To celebrate I’m gonna eat cookies and read a romance novel. Indulge a little bit and just not be concerned about it..
48 Pauline Sep 7, 2009
Thank you Jen for lighting our path along the way . . . . all we need is love ~
49 Nancy Sep 7, 2009
In this freedom from self-improvement, what really snacks me in the gut and leaves me breathless is this:
If I’m perfect just the way I am,
if I don’t need fixing … changing … improving … mending … patching up … healing … correcting … and otherwise rescue from my miserably inadequate current state,
Then you don’t need it either.
You’re perfect just as you are.
You, too, are love and wholeness and beauty and truth.
And we are the same.
50 D. Sep 7, 2009
Thanks for the great idea. As I love and accept myself, those around me will be free to do the same. It may start a revolution!
51 Nancy Sep 7, 2009
What a fantastic and innovative idea! Thank you for the new perspective on self-improvement. I feel better already!
52 Margaret Sep 7, 2009
To accept life and our being is such empowerment and flying free! God does not make junk so enjoy that inner you and celebrate!Sign on!
53 Jill Sep 7, 2009
As a chronic, compulsive self-improver who now finds herself struggling to rehab after knee replacement surgery (with all the shoulds, oughts and worries thereto pertaining), I welcome the respite from trying to work on my inner self in favor of healing and strengthening my whole self. I don’t think my physical therapist will be on board with my not working to improved my range of motion this week, but I can at least let go of the trying and mental machinations that go along with it. She’ll never be the wiser, and mabye, just maybe I’ll be more relaxed, flowing and able to rehab more quickly.
54 Pat Sep 7, 2009
I love this! We need to love and pamper ourselves and know that we are wonder*full.
Now, come out!
55 Deborah Sep 7, 2009
I didn’t get this last year but in the past year I’ve gotten it – totally!
56 Lisa Sep 7, 2009
I certainly need to do this! Thanks
57 Cathy Sep 7, 2009
I have been living the “I’m good enough just as I am” life for two years now. I feel confident, capable, and courageous. Thanks for all your hard work on our behalf.
58 Cyndi Sep 7, 2009
when i was a little girl i would jump into bed from as far away as i could ’cause i was afraid of the monsters under there. i should have been looking in my head instead ~ now that i’m all grown up, i think i’ll start crawling under my bed once in a while to get to know those monsters, i might find that i like them and it looks sooooooo comfy! (perfect for the “Comfort Queen”
59 Theresa Sep 7, 2009
Jen, I always love your videos!
When I think about “freedom from self-improvement,” it really just makes me feel hopeful and light, and a deep sigh, too!
60 Regina Sep 7, 2009
YES! No more “proving” that I have to be any better than I am RIGHT NOW!
61 Lisa Marie Mary Sep 7, 2009
I do hereby declare my essential goodness. And the essential goodness in my recognizes and acknowledges the essential goodness in all of you!
62 Kara Sep 7, 2009
Jen, you are such a loveable goofball. I really needed this playful absurd video this morning. Add my name to the declaration.
63 Jennifer Sep 7, 2009
Thanks for loving my goofball side. I must admit to wavering about sharing this video but then decided, what the hell.
And reading all your comments is more life giving and freeing than anything I can imagine!
64 Meredith Sep 7, 2009
Jen, it is so good to hear your voice.
And yes, I’m on board to participate with your Freedom from Self-Improvement for as long as I can. And at such time that I can’t, that’s ok, too.
So. Stay under the bed. Come out from under the bed. I love you (and you love you), either way.
Meredith
65 Liz Sep 7, 2009
I’m in!
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67 Joely Black Sep 7, 2009
I will definitely go for that!
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69 Nancy Sep 7, 2009
Jen…it’s ironic that a step that I once would have described as an effort at self-improvement, having gastric bypass surgery, has helped me see the difference between making real, lasting, healthy change and so-called self improvement that really is a form of beating up on oneself. Your declaration has sealed the deal for me in terms of understanding the difference between the two!
70 Connie Knapp Sep 7, 2009
I always thought that self improvement was the American way-only lately have I realized that maybe I’m just fine the way I am-no improvement necessary!
Thanks, Jen, for making this the topic of the Comfort Cafe-how freeing.
71 Barb McMahon Sep 7, 2009
Oh! I am so there!
Wheee!
72 OtterMom Sep 7, 2009
Thank you! Just enjoying the soft breeze and the shadows of the sun through the rustling leaves. Being happy. Me, one with everything, happily!
73 Mother Bear Sep 7, 2009
WOWOWOWOWOW!!!! thisis a GREAT idea!!! I have never been able to completely come to the belief I was ever “Good Enough”. Thanks for this opportunity —-You rock!!!!
74 Cherisse Sep 7, 2009
Today I choose to live in Today!
75 KimberlyGrace Sep 7, 2009
I must say this is harder than it sounded. I keep wanting to say, “Yes! But I just need to…”
So what I really need is to relax and just let me be. For now, that’s pretty liberating. Thanks, Jen.
76 megan Sep 7, 2009
My partner drowned on July 12th; he was 39. My whole “normal” life dissolved. My “work” – to stop trying to Do This Right. Stop Worrying that I am not good enough, or am too untrusting, to hear god and matt and love now. I cannot screw this up, or lose my window, or lose love in any way. I had already laid down “trying hard.” Now is not the time to pick up old weapons. And when I, invariably, do – the “do better NOW or all is lost” stick is not the one to pick up instead.
77 Anj Sep 7, 2009
Realizing I verbally abuse myself in the name of improvement was mind-opening…
78 Janeace Sep 7, 2009
I think you just made my day and my week…I read your declaration and watched the under bed video and I felt such a wave of relief…with tears in my eyes I took a moment to thank myself for being here and thought about how wonderful the world looks when you see everyone from their own inner goodness … diamond eyes…a pure reflection of all that is good in the world around us. Thanks for this wonderful experience and for pausing my day to take a deep breath and a deep inhalation of my own version of perfection!
79 Marnie Sep 7, 2009
Self-care is NOT a luxury. The kindness and gentleness and love that I give to myself is what I have to give to others. I understand that there is NOTHING wrong with me. I am beautiful and lovable and complete just as I Am.
80 Vicci Sep 7, 2009
Great job Jennifer! I participated last time and have all your books! Good time to start in the fall when the seasons change and so much is in the air to begin new projects and courses, yet we do not have to get caught up in all of that. We can just be here now and present. Thank you for the reminder to do so.
81 Dina Sep 7, 2009
WOW-not continuously be ‘working’ on improving myself–how does that even begin? I am totally looking forward to lifting this particular ‘should’ off my shoulders.
82 Cindy Sep 7, 2009
I confess. I’m finding it difficult not to turn this declaration into just one more of my lifelong efforts to improve myself.
My brain knows “these truths are self-evident.” Now I’m trying to let them into my heart and soul.
Thank you, Jen, for helping me open to them.
83 Kat Sep 7, 2009
Yes! I affirm the oath! Yes!!!
Relaxing into easy acceptance of me,
Kat
84 Mary Sep 7, 2009
I’m going to do and be my very, very best!
85 Michelle Russell Sep 7, 2009
I am hereby picking up this gauntlet! Because it’s not as easy as signing my name to a declaration…it’s bloody hard work to **believe** (or at least act as if) I’m fine just as I am. But hey, I’m blogging about overcoming imperfection, so I’m already working on this stuff. Thanks for bringing it into clearer focus this week, Jen!
86 Jennifer Sep 7, 2009
CINDY, read over the comments here lightly, come back each day for the audios treats, and other goodies, and the knowing you are whole and complete will by pass your head and fill your heart.
Because you are so right, it’s not about our heads at all, is it??
YES! Everyone, what energy flows here today, thank you thank you!
87 Linda F. Hawkins Sep 7, 2009
Yes! I am good enough just the way I am. I don’t need any more workshops, how to books or training to be the fabulous artist I already am.
88 Lynn Jacobs Sep 7, 2009
I’m all about this one. Enough with striving to be more or better or somehow “other” than I am. Whew. What a relief!
89 Carolyn Sep 7, 2009
I am in…what a great theme. I’ve been at a roadblock and struggling to get past it, so this is just the ticket!
90 Rose Sep 7, 2009
I am so up for this challenge…what a wonderful week this will be…its ok to be me…to love me…to just enjoy each day.
91 Sara Schmidt Sep 7, 2009
I pledge to be kind to myself this month, and to love just being who I am!
92 PJammy Sep 7, 2009
Gee…I wish I could fit underneath my bed! But, as it’s Freedom from Self-Improvement Day, I’m not even going to TRY to lose weight today. Smoochies!
93 Rosemary Sep 7, 2009
Thank you, Jennifer! This is such a fabulous idea. It’s about time we all started appreciating who and where we are.
94 Deborah Sep 7, 2009
Wonderful idea! I am enough, I do enough, I have enough. How lovely to take a break from feeling the pressure to be, do and have more. Huge sigh…
95 Suzanne Sep 7, 2009
Under the bed …. had to listen to the whole video to understand why – I love it!! To know that there are others who want/need to “hide” now and then to just get away from all the needs and demands to be “better” … Thanks!
96 Lotus Sep 7, 2009
I love that you are doing this! Wonderful! I could not agree more.
97 Laura Sep 7, 2009
I am ready to embrace myself as is with love, gratitude and compassion.
Thank you for the reminder that we are all good enough.
98 Angelique Sep 7, 2009
I actually read your newsletters and emails. Thanks for sharing they do remind me to keep it real!!!!
Thanks
Angelique
99 emilylime Sep 7, 2009
Oh, you said it! It’s so scary, but I’ll sign on anyway.
100 Diane Whiddon-Brown Sep 7, 2009
Jen! I love this idea! I’ve been working so hard over the last few months to improve myself and increase myself knowledge and “find” happiness that I’ve forgotten the whole point of self-acceptance! I’ve forgotten the joy of just meeting myself where I am and letting the happiness happen. Thanks for this. I’m really looking forward to the rest of your goodies this week.
101 Christine Myers Sep 7, 2009
Just what I have been looking for!
102 Julia Sep 7, 2009
I like your books,i would like to go to a retreat sometime but,seemingly things get in the way..clean under the bed??? no way,too hard of work…
103 Barbara Sep 7, 2009
Ahhhh. Permission granted to read more novels and no self-help books. Isn’t it interesting…freedom from self-improvement IS self-care. Love this concept. I’m in.
104 Laurie Sep 7, 2009
100% agree! I am with you on this concept and hereby sign your declaration as well!
105 Terri Sep 7, 2009
I am ready to hang up all the shoulds, or if onlys, and live daily and by the moment with what my soul says is right. I am going to join in this week for the freedom.
106 Amy Sep 7, 2009
Returning from vacation today and this sounds like a wonderful idea. Here’s my John Hancock.
107 Michelle Sep 7, 2009
This is exactly what I need right now. As my kids return to school, my thoughts turn to what I need to do to improve myself as well. But, why? I need to recognize that I am good right now!
108 Michelle Sep 7, 2009
Amen! I need this right now! Thanks!
109 Teri Sep 7, 2009
I, like the many other wonderous- wonder-women who have already signed , need to take this declaration to heart again this year.
Thank you, dearest Jen, for being a “string around my finger”… and my heart!
110 Catherine Rohde Sep 7, 2009
Wonderful concept. Heard once that we cannot travel without first loving who we are and where we are.
111 Sandra Romano Sep 7, 2009
Freedom from self improvement. Wonderful concept. I decided about a month ago I haven’t done anything for ME in a long long time. Therefore, I planned a short trip with my best friend to the beach, which always refills my inner strength and helps me connect with my vision of Deity…
112 Shawna R. B. Atteberry Sep 7, 2009
This is exactly what I need. I’m a self-improvement addict. I’m tired of it. It’s time to love me and take care of myself just the way I am.
113 Dora Sep 7, 2009
first time visiting your site and I have to say I love it! (recently checked out a book from the library that I have yet to open and now I’m looking forward to it!)
Being
rather than doing, trying harder, striving, etc.
and being okay with that
wow
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115 Rach Sep 7, 2009
Thank you for making me laugh and making me remember that i love laughing. Among all the other traps ‘trying to be better’ catches me in, taking myself too seriously is the one I fall for every time.
116 Vickie Hill Sep 7, 2009
It surely would be nice if doing was as easy as reading your words.
You make me snicker, thank you.
Vickie
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118 Susie Roberts Sep 7, 2009
You mean I can stop buying all of those self improvement books this week, stop beating myself up because I didn’t improve this week, stop……stop!
What a blessed relief and an astonishing gift…….thank you.
119 Nina East Sep 7, 2009
Ah, what fun! As an avid personal growth enthusiast, I have found the resources I am drawn to the most often are the ones that confirm that I am OK just as I am…including everything from you, Jennifer.
Thanks for declaring such a fun and freeing week!
Nina!
120 Virginia Sep 7, 2009
I’m good enough as I am, a la Sally Field. Reallyreallyreally.
Ahem. Count me in.
121 Sonia Connolly Sep 7, 2009
Thanks for the support for leaving self-improvement behind! So many articles tell us to worry more. I am committed to recognizing my essential goodness.
122 Angelique Sep 7, 2009
Thank you so much for the reminder!
123 Martha Garvey Sep 7, 2009
Au revoir, improvement de self! May we all declare freedom from this.
124 Leslie Marmor Sep 7, 2009
Count me in!! I am using this month to purge those things that don’t serve me well – and bask in the Freedom from Self Improvement!
125 Marisa Sep 7, 2009
Yes!!! I started a little early with this, I was in California last week and I went to the beach everyday….wearing a bathing suit. I finally realized that I don’t have to be “perfect” with “perfect legs” and all that to enjoy the sand and sun, I just had to let go of the idea that there was something wrong with me. What a beautiful feeling that was!
126 Sabra Sep 7, 2009
Thank you! I loved that you were under the bed using kind words and trying to control your left hand, which talks with you!
127 Susan Phelps Sep 7, 2009
Jennifer – My hubby & I were just talking about my niece & her newborn (who is perfect) & how all parents think their babies are perfect. Why do we, who were so “perfect” once no longer see that in ourselves? Well, thanks to you & so many other inspirational women in my life, I’ve come to the conclusion that just to exist in life is perfection!!! Don’t you think so?!
128 Susan Sep 7, 2009
I’m certainly ready to get help organizing my life!
129 Sally Evans Sep 7, 2009
This comes at quite an opportune time….I could use the break from feeling like I “should” improve myself! Thanks. It’s a good reminder!
130 Bronwyn Sep 7, 2009
I declare that I will be free from self improvement that is destructive and declare my unconditional love for myself!
131 Alice Sep 7, 2009
I surprised my self last week by having a whole day on which I thought I was okay. It was almost miraculous. Thank you for emphasizing this aspect of self-care. “What if,” I say, “for just today I will accept myself just as I am?” What if…
132 maria Sep 7, 2009
I decided to go on a mini-retreat for two days because I’m burned out from doing everything for others and being too tired afterward to do anything for myself. I discovered your books when I was at the library looking for books to take with me – books that would remind me that I AM good enough, even when I am not DOING for others. I signed up for your newsletter yesterday and now, WOW!!! I just hit the jackpot! I am not alone! And I do not have to work on improving myself while I am away. I will NOT work on improving myself while I am on retreat, I will treat myself to all the things I do not take time for at home – naps, massage, a trip to “Antique Row,” who knows what else? I am free. I am enough! Thank you!
133 Patty Sep 7, 2009
Ahhh….I can just be; that is, BE ME. I can give myself permission to be me at any given moment without any expectations that I must “be” a certain way. Thank you Jennifer!
134 Molly Sep 7, 2009
Thanks for the reminder! I’ve been unemployed since February and it has been a time of a lot of soul searching. It’s way too easy to be hard on ourselves and not look at all the things that give us value and our own uniqueness. We need a reminder every once in a while that we are amazing just the way we are.
135 Shell Sep 7, 2009
I’m there – it’s all good!
136 Paulita Sep 7, 2009
I love this week and I love that you spoke to us from under the bed! Yay for accepting ourselves even when we hide under the bed.
137 Sacred Discovery Sep 7, 2009
Count me in! This is perfect timing. Thanks so much for sharing.
138 Ruth Sep 7, 2009
count me in!
139 kate Sep 7, 2009
I herewith declare that for the entire month of September I will accept myself unconditionally and lovingly for who I am
140 Jilly Sep 7, 2009
I was trying so hard to improve upon what I wanted to say here…I’m stopping now! Thank you Jen.
141 Gayatri Sep 7, 2009
Oh, the perfect timing of the Comfort Queen in sending this on Labor Day. I have been restless. I have been in a funk. I am cranky. Nervous. Snappy. Lashing out at the kids and the hubby at the smallest provocation. I pause and notice. I know there is something going on, and I must address it. Face the truth of why I am so …. stuck. Upon reading this declaration, and pondering it, I now know that I feel stuck and restless and frustrated because I feel that I should be doing more. Feeling differently. Acting better. I want to be and act other than I am. I am unaccepting of my imperfect state. I don’t even tolerate myself right now. Acceptance? Instead I worry about all that I could be doing to advance my career, how I am failing as a parent, and just not worth too much to anybody. I am wallowing in a self-pitying funk. So, this declaration is not only timely but on point in more ways than words can convey.
142 Doreen Sep 7, 2009
This sounds like a wonderful idea. I’m tired of not loving myself, of beating myself up for not being good enough, thin enough, organized enough, etc. etc. etc. The essence inside me is GOOD – it’s time to celebrate that instead of dismissing it by constantly striving to be different.
143 Carolyn W. in New Orelans Sep 7, 2009
Thank you for declairing September Freedom from Self-improvement month. This is the best birthday present. I am not buy anymore stuff to fix me because it’s okay if I want to stay the way I am…even if it’s under the bed with my cat some days.
Namaste.
144 Kathryn Sep 7, 2009
LOVED doing nothing today that I didn’t feel like doing! Now for a look at that luscious fall bulb catalog:) Maybe some chocolate to go with…
145 CC Sep 7, 2009
You made me laugh out loud at your under the bed video! I’m treating myself to a break from my self improvement stack of books (and yes, I even have a few for the dogs — someone’s gotta read & train them!) – so today after watching your video, they’ve been corralled (one by the bed, two by the reading chair, one in my briefcase and a small stack in the night stand drawer) and put in a cardboard box in the basement. I’ve marked my calendar to remember they are there on October 1 – who knows, maybe they’ll just go directly to Goodwill??
thanks for the laugh!
146 kimbol Sep 7, 2009
always a great idea! and i love the under-bed intro
! i’m in.
147 carolyn, laughing yogini Sep 7, 2009
Jen, I have been loving this month!!! Must admit being OK just as I AM RIGHT NOW is a tad scary though. I have to break through 54 years of conditioning. Hallelulah, I am ready.
Just think of it: Perfect! If we really believed it, how the world would change ~ how we would change…Sounds an awful lot like realization or enlightenment or BLISS.
148 Debbie Sep 7, 2009
Thanks for the reminder! You can’t help but smile watching the video!
149 Cynthia Sep 7, 2009
Hey-I know that I’ve found you at the right time when I begin with wondering why you are under a bed, and end with tears from a softened heart. You are truly amazing. Thank you…did I mention that this was timely? So not a coincidence.
150 Josiane Sep 7, 2009
Jen, what a treat to see you and hear you again! That took me right back to the retreat!
I’m looking forward to seeing what else you have to share on this topic. I think it’s a terrific idea to spend a stretch of time talking about this, so that the idea can sink in where it needs to live within us for us to be able to live it.
151 Paula Sep 7, 2009
There was nothing on my calendar that I HAD to do today (well except school work which is always there) So I did what I wanted to do not what I was supposed to do! I layed in bed and watched TV with my husband till noon, messed with some herbal projects, called a dear friend, cooked a lovely roast, and have still managed to ignore my schoolwork! It feels good! No weight watchers points today and no feeling guilty about it! I can’t wait for October 1st!
152 Sharon Sep 7, 2009
Awesome site and concept! I hereby sign this declaration.
153 Ginette Sep 7, 2009
I happily and gratefully sign this declaration! This is so in tune with where I am right now in my life journey. Woohoo!
154 Theresa Sep 7, 2009
Count me in as signed on the declaration. It should be a very interesting week. I have always been into “self-improvement,” but I’m ready for a change!
155 Sally F Sep 7, 2009
Oh, you’re so right–there’s nothing to “fix,” nothing to buy, nothing to do or be or think or say in order to “earn” our goodness. Thanks for rallying the troops!
156 Melody Sep 7, 2009
Oh yes!
Yes, yes, yes YES !!!!!!!!!
To be free is to be free of our internal terrorist.
Let today be the first day of the rest of our lives and the new state of peaceful cooperation within.
Blessings to you for bringing it to our attention and blessings for a peaceful world.
157 Shawna Sep 7, 2009
I’m ALWAYS trying to improve stuff about myself….when it’s really me that should be impressed already with ME
158 Karly Pitman Sep 7, 2009
The core issue for me is self-trust. Why did I look for answers out there? Because I didn’t trust myself. Because I didn’t know how to listen to myself. Because I thought I had all the “wrong” answers. The more I listen to myself, the more I know that my inner wisdom knows what is best for me. The more I heed my intuition, the more joyful I feel. The more I abide in that quiet center, the easier I find it is to change those things that do need changing and to lovingly, gently, easily let the rest to go.
159 Alice Sep 7, 2009
If not now…when?
160 Sharon Sep 7, 2009
Awesome site. Love the concept, and hereby sign declaration.
161 anne Sep 7, 2009
I echo Gayatri’s (#141) comments/thoughts.
Thank you!
(and yes, I edited this, but only once, and I promise to quit trying to improve even my internet posts right now!)
162 Jo Sep 7, 2009
Hurrah from Australia!
I put my hand up as having been in the race to ‘Be’ someone ‘more than’. My body stopped me 5 weeks ago, just prior to my 39th birthday. I couldn’t walk. Diagnosis ‘unknown’ to the medical world….but to me it was my body holding up the red flag telling me to stop. Up until that moment I chased with such determination the illusion of more. I was under the spell of the not good enough gremlins. My innate body wisdom planned the intervention and I was forced to stop. I have now. I am noticing the beauty around me, my incredible ability and self worth. I am waving my flag of liberation…Freedom From Self Improvement I chant and then I notice my coming home to me.
163 Page Sep 7, 2009
I like your use of videos! I feel like we’re really connecting because I can see and hear you. You speak from your heart and depth of experience in an authentic, soulful way. The Freedom f/Self-Improvement movement echoes the Tantric philosophy that underlies Anusara yoga, I think. Everything is perfect right now, including me and you and … Thanks for the reminder! It is a practice of remembering and forgetting and remembering. Love! Jai!
164 Aura-Lee Sep 7, 2009
Thank you so much for the reminder.
I am all I need to be …right here right now. I get so sucked in to thinking if only I did this or if I know more or do more… that things will be different. I love your message.
165 Rose Sep 7, 2009
Thanks so much Jen, what an awesome idea… I am so signing!
=) Rose
166 Annette Sep 7, 2009
I fully embrace “freedom from self-improvement month”, aka “freedom from the perfectionist taskmaster.” Just in time for my birthday too. Love it!
167 Vicki Sep 7, 2009
Here’s to the ability to forgive ourselves for trying too hard. What shall we do with this giant hearts of ours.
I choose to be free from Self-improvement and full of self-love. Thank you!
168 Kendra Sep 7, 2009
I shall sign my name extra large so my Inner Critic (IC)can read it without her spectacles, and so my CQ can cheer with me. It’s past time to stop the craziness of berating myself for not self-improving “right”. When I hear IC clearing her throat, warming up to a new lecture, I will tell her “I am so too good enough!”
169 Anna Sep 7, 2009
Me too, I’m in!
170 Judi W Sep 7, 2009
I’m in! How free-ing to just be ok with yourself. No pressure to constantly be improving something.
171 Gabriella Sep 7, 2009
This week I’ll stop pursuing self-improvement and I’ll seek self-being and natural daily self-growth. Thanks Jen!
172 Wormy Sep 8, 2009
Accepting ourselves as we are – are you crazy?! Only joking…
Hear hear! I’m all for jumping on this bandwagon.
Just as we are right now – *all* of us – is just perfect.
173 Diana Sep 8, 2009
The last few and the next many weeks are do-do-do weeks for me. Work and teaching, starting a full time university course (at the age of 56!), new bathrooms being installed.
OK, I’m good enough and I’m just fine. Nothing needs to be improved. (My darling fiance’ would agree, he even loves my bumpy bits…).
Good stuff, Jen.
Diana
174 chris zydel Sep 8, 2009
YAY for self love! Yay for being exactly who and what we are!! Yay for radical self acceptance and being under the bed acceptance and goofball kindness and mercy.
I LOVE THIS CONCEPT!!!
175 Shayla Sep 8, 2009
All the time Jen, people ask me, Shayla, why are you so happy? “I have been treated very well in my life.” is my pat answer. And while I also do and think many things to treat myself well, all of the anxiety I ever feel is from my own not approving of myself. Your gentile sweet, self effacing, and humorous ways to remind “us” of our inherent good has helped my transformation! So much out there tells us to just be yourself. Your demonstrations and pertinent queries bore through the muck of my “gotta bes” and “shoulds”.
Thank you.
176 Nici Sep 8, 2009
Thank you. I tried to improve and read all those How-to books not realizing that I’m quite good right now, too. (Oh, only quite good? I need to improve my self-love skills. Uhm. Wait. There’s a catch, hm?)
[Please don't mind my English, English is not my mother tongue. I do my very best to improve my English, but not this week.]
177 Linda Sep 8, 2009
count me as signed in as well. I have read years & years of self-help books and yes I think they have helped if now I stand in my own place of being and realize that they were seeds being dropped here and there in my sometimes fertile soil. I have to admit though coming out the other side of menopause has help those seedings flourish or I have gotten to a state I’m just great the way I am. I know I will never reach perfection I only know one that can state that in thruth. But for me right now its all good and its great to take a break from thinking otherwise.
Thank you Jennifer love you and have loved your books.
Linda
178 Jay7878 Sep 8, 2009
Wow, this is really infrequent data about it Even the freelance writing should not easy grapple with that.
179 Kerry Sep 8, 2009
Looking forward to letting go of struggle and embracing what is! Thank you Jen!
180 leah Sep 8, 2009
heck, yeah! and thank you for the reminder that its ok to let go of all teh striving and just be.
181 Lynda Sep 8, 2009
I understand the concept of “working on myself” and often falling short of the goal! I will carry the “Freedom from Self-Improvement” banner during September and for the years to come.
182 Kristine Sep 8, 2009
I joyfully sign the Declaration! I managed to experience this kind of freedom once for about 6 weeks before all the judgments took over again. What a lovely purpose for this month of transition!
183 Susan Sep 8, 2009
To me self improvement starts with the fact there is something wrong with the way you are. That is a negative way to feel.
Also, it is usually something that in your mind it is only something you are forcing yourself to do and is usually just temporary.
I look forward to this new approach to a new mindset.
184 NancyJo Sep 8, 2009
Yay! Hooray! Except for one caveat: I just quit smoking. This will not get in the way of that, because I am NOT a smoker.
185 jan Sep 8, 2009
I will eat salads for lunch, go to the gym, or take long walks for pleasure not out of guilt.
186 CrowsFoxes Sep 8, 2009
Jen, I thought I was going to be only one under a bed (that’s where I’m spending 9/24-25 for the G20!). Love it, love it, love it!!
CrowsFoxes
187 Jessica Sep 8, 2009
how well timed this is. i’ve been pondering the last few days how much i identify/cling to the idea of transcendentalism and how Jo March commented on it in at least the Winona Ryder version of the movie when she stated to the effect that we must always be constantly improving ourselves with such an eyeroll that any mother would get a chuckle. *lol*
i need to link this in my facebook (i found it because Raelee linked it). *grin*
188 maggie Sep 8, 2009
Today is my birthday. I was born just the way I was supposed to be and I will remember that each day I only need to claim my birthright: to be myself.
189 Jennifer Sep 8, 2009
Oh the love of innate goodness that runs through your comments, may it light up the world!
190 Marqurite Sep 8, 2009
I am going to read it again out loud so the voices in my head REALLY get the msg
191 Sarah Sep 8, 2009
i will let my meditation practice be what it is, without striving so hard to do it right. let the peace arise!
192 Tracy Sep 8, 2009
Feeling guilty already for having eaten lunch… then I got back to the office and found this link in my email. Couldn’t have come at a better time! Will still make healthier choices, but will NOT torture myself over my imagined imperfections. Yay!
193 Mary Lou Sep 8, 2009
I’m in again this year. One week – just being me. No Self-Improvement work. Only on the bed, not under ~ what would I do with all that stuff under there anyway.
194 Shanna Sep 8, 2009
in the middle of freak-out mode over not being productive enough, focused enough, etc. I decide to check this out. I so needed this–thanks a bunch.
Now get out from under the bed, Jen
195 Jill Sheldon Sep 8, 2009
I needed this today!
I want to help you get out from under the bed, but part of me wants to crawl under there with you! Reminds me of being a kid and playing forts…
196 paula Sep 8, 2009
what a glorious way to live!
197 Maggie Ostara Sep 8, 2009
Ahhh ~ time to jump off the hampster wheel of spiritual seeking and self improvement, just another version of “not-enoughness,” “not-good-enoughness.” I am as I am, and I feel, love and evolve. I cry, I express, I love, and I fall down. I touch in, I look out, I walk and sleep. I feel astonished ~ again ~ at how good the sun feels on my face, and how delicious are my daughter’s hugs. This moment, and this moment, and this moment. . . thank you for the reminder ~ again ~ and again ~ and again.
198 Pam Sep 8, 2009
I am a work in progress.
199 Susan Sep 8, 2009
What a great idea! With the rise of social media and so many more avenues for self improvment by watching, listening, journaling, meditating, the drive for self-improvement becomes even more daunting. A break to refresh and refocus seems in order, but I don’t think I can do it for a whole month. I’ll start with a day and work up to a month
200 ABBY Sep 8, 2009
I’M GOING TO TAKE A MONTH OFF.
WHO STARTED THIS DUMB IDEA OF SELF IMPROVEMENT.CAN’T WE WORK IT OUT ALL ON OUR OWN?
IT’S like trying to westernise the east.
201 Jyll Johnson Sep 8, 2009
I have been working on this for months, taking time for ME, getting back into shape for ME, and rebuilding our family and marriage that almost ended. I find the less stressed I let myself get (yes, those dishes CAN sit) and the more time I take to stay in the here and now, and do things for myself, the better parent, wife, and friend I am. I am especially a better ME.
Kudos…
Jyll
202 Susan Sep 8, 2009
Fabulous idea! With new technology and social media, the opportunities to improve are overwhelming: listen to live or download calls and webinars, watch videos, journal, one-on-one coaching calls…one month of freedom sounds good. Well, maybe I’ll start out with a day and work my way up!
203 cathy muir Sep 8, 2009
And so it began…
204 carol Sep 8, 2009
You’re the best! Your ability to capture reality is so refreshing. Fredom from self-improvement….that so fits in with why I’m living in a tent on the roof!
(Met you at Michael Bungay Stanier’s SeaTac workshop)
Thank you!
Carol
http://www.upontheroofwithcarol.org
205 amy Sep 8, 2009
my-oh-my, thank you for this reminder. this precious moment is here now, not after we are (fill in the blank). now. how often we forget, and allow it to pass us by. i hereby cherish this moment, exactly as i am.
206 carol Sep 8, 2009
p.s. I so want to be #200 so I’m writing this p.s. too.
207 Cynthia H Sep 8, 2009
I love this Jen! I am ceasing, desisting, and embracing – starting this moment…
208 Leslie Sep 8, 2009
Hello Jen,
YES, a freedom from self improvement month is a great idea… i am thrilled to sign up.
Leslie
209 Valerie Legge Sep 8, 2009
What fun to discover you and your site! Count me in – I’m ready to chill out under the bed too
210 Michele Sep 8, 2009
Gosh, I think you should get Oprah — the self-improvement queen — on board with this!
Some of us truly are buried treasures. It seems so paradoxical that our efforts to improve ourselves so often just leave us buried in deeper muck.
211 Deb Owen Sep 8, 2009
Thank you for this, Jen!
I love when people are on the same wavelength to because I’d been giving this a great deal of thought lately. Some people can use self-improvement to beat themselves up, others can use it to keep chasing that ‘good’ feeling in the way they use other things.
We are, all of us, where we are and that really is perfectly fine.
I’ll definitely sign!
All the best!
deb
212 Lean Ni Chuilleanain Sep 8, 2009
Heady stuff! Timely advice for me, at the moment – thank you
213 Vicki Sep 8, 2009
Ahhhhhhhhhh! Thanks, Jen, for the reminder that I’m okay, actually, I’m perfect, just the way I am!!
I declare my freedom from self-improvement tyranny by fully accepting that if I got under my bed, I’d be covered in dust bunnies, and that’s okay. It could be a new and fun way to get them out from under the bed!!
214 Kathy Sep 8, 2009
I believe that it is ingrained in all of us that we are in a constant flux of self improvement, and if you do not follow the status quo with the rest of “them” (could someone please explain to me who “they” are?), then you will remain stuck forever. How wonderful to take the time to appreciate each and everyone of us for what we are, what we present to the rest of the world, and why we have our own uniqueness in our 3 feet of space upon this planet. I would love to climb under my bed….but there is too much stuff there. Perhaps that is it, we are stuffing ourselves with so much self help and self improvement, we forget the wonders of what is just there.
215 Kristen Herrington Sep 8, 2009
love, love, LOVE this! thank you! somehow just having someone else say i’m okay just as i am allows me to see that for myself. this is a much needed respite, this wonderful month of Freedom From Self-Improvement!
216 Patricia Sep 8, 2009
A week of self-acceptance…WOW what might that bring?
In accepting oneself…mightn’t it be easier to also accept others?
Thanks!
217 Kim Sep 8, 2009
Great time of year to be free as everyone has such high expectations for renewal, coming off summer breaks and feeling the need to be better! Thanks!
218 Dorian Sep 8, 2009
It’s now 5 months since I lost my job. Even though you don’t know me…your posting these week about the freedom from self-improvement made me feel like you do!
To those who do know me…I am a focused, driven, cause absorbed individual who has been really having a tough time because its taken me this long to realize that its not “what do I do” that gives me my identity…its who I am…that makes my life full. Sure it sucks to be out of work…and money is getting tight…but I have an amazing circle of select friends that believe in ME not my job! Thank you for confirming that just BEING is ok…for now!
219 Denise H. Sep 8, 2009
Hi my name is Denise, and I am a self-help junkie.
I am so relieved to have a reprieve from trying to make my self better. I feels so much better just letting go, and just excepting and loving myself for exactly who I am right now. I think I am just going to lay on the floor right now too. Ahhhh!
Thanks, Comfort Queen!
220 Connie W. Sep 8, 2009
Phew! Such radiant relief !
221 Barbara Sep 9, 2009
What a freeing fantastic idea!
I’ll give it a go!
222 The Behavior Lady Sep 9, 2009
Thanks Jen! It IS good to be reminded that there’s really nothing wrong and everything is just as it should be.
223 Cariad Sep 9, 2009
Wow! What a concept. My partner has been out of town for a week. I realize I feel more relaxed because I’m not expending a ton of energy trying to “improve” my lover. I know that outwardly projected “helpfulness” is really just an extension of my dissatisfaction with what “is” and my constant quest to improve myself and my surroundings. Being introduced to your site now is great timing. Thanks!
224 Angel Sep 9, 2009
Yes, I declare myself FREE!
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226 Jenni Sep 9, 2009
FREE that is meeeee.
And entering in to win a free giveaway is even better!
227 Dee Sep 9, 2009
Sign me up!
228 Kelley Sep 9, 2009
I am me, just the way I am. This is me, learning to love me, and be happy as me.
Thank you, Jen!!
229 elleninda Sep 9, 2009
Thank you for freedom of any sort!!We need it!
230 Martha Sep 9, 2009
Just found your site! Fabulous! Will tell my friends! Thank you
231 Meredith Sep 9, 2009
I want to be free to be me and not to worry. Baby Steps.
232 Kristi Sep 10, 2009
Thank you, Jen!
233 Natalia Real Sep 10, 2009
This is very beautiful. I am so happy I found this.
Your smile! Your laugh! Your philosophy! Beauty all around, in it and in you and in your efforts to share it with everyone.
Thank you
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235 Casey Sep 10, 2009
Oh my gods, YES.
Elimination of “shoulds” and “supposed-tos.” Not feeling like the cover girl for self-help daily. Allowing myself to just BE just the way I am for a little bit.
Wonderful!
236 Julinda Sep 11, 2009
I declare my freedom from self-improvement! Good grief, what will I do in all that time I’m freeing up?
237 shirl Sep 11, 2009
always learning.
shirl
238 Jan Uetrecht Sep 13, 2009
I’m in! Thanks for the freeing ideas.
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240 Jessica Sep 20, 2009
What an awesome idea. School starts in a week, so having this week to relax before will be a nice change.
241 Sheila Oct 16, 2009
Just started reading this today. never been on here and it sounds so much like me it is unreal! I think it was meant for me to find this! thank you
242 Carlo Ami Nov 23, 2009
I like to stretch my declaration a bit further than the one shown here: I think that at our core, we are all powerful, beautiful and the essence of pure love.
Any time we feel like we have to force anything having to do with our self-improvement, we drain our power.
This fits in with an article I put on my site recently:
http://www.yourpausebutton.com/Articles-by-Carlo-Ami/Need-THe-Self-Torturing-Four-Letter-Word.html
Trusting that this site is not just for women!
243 Wulfie Jan 5, 2010
You…are under a bed!….My first experience of you is finding you hiding and talking from under a bed!
OMG That’s AWESOME!