Comments on: How Are Those Habits Working for You? http://www.comfortqueen.com/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:06:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: MG http://www.comfortqueen.com/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/comment-page-1#comment-21 MG Tue, 01 Jul 2008 00:21:05 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/#comment-21 I'm going out tonight to pick you up your Life Organizer to create a new habit for myself. I've had a difficult & wonderful, amazing exhausting roller coaster weekend. I have the very real sense of being in the position of creating and shaping where my life will go next - I'm waiting for my divorce to go through and am going through bankruptcy. The biggest change for me and my children, is my sister and her family, who have shared our home for five years, are in the process of moving to another city. While there is some sadness, when I reflect - I feel like I'm on some exhilarating journey that has something entirely new around the corner. Life truly feels like a messy art project that shifts from one moment to the next. When it gets intense like the last couple of days, your insights are so helpful. Your reminder to not be hard on myself is so timely! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! I’m going out tonight to pick you up your Life Organizer to create a new habit for myself. I’ve had a difficult & wonderful, amazing exhausting roller coaster weekend.

I have the very real sense of being in the position of creating and shaping where my life will go next – I’m waiting for my divorce to go through and am going through bankruptcy. The biggest change for me and my children, is my sister and her family, who have shared our home for five years, are in the process of moving to another city.

While there is some sadness, when I reflect – I feel like I’m on some exhilarating journey that has something entirely new around the corner.

Life truly feels like a messy art project that shifts from one moment to the next. When it gets intense like the last couple of days, your insights are so helpful. Your reminder to not be hard on myself is so timely! Thank you for sharing your journey with us!

]]> By: Jennifer Louden http://www.comfortqueen.com/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/comment-page-1#comment-20 Jennifer Louden Sun, 29 Jun 2008 18:24:13 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/#comment-20 I adore your insights everbody! Marisa, when you wrote, "It was such a small thing, but I feel totally different than I would had I tried to write inside today." And Tricia, your poignant post about your mother – sigh. I’ve sure been missing my daddy lately. I so wish he could met my new beau, he would like him so much! Rebecca, LOVE the idea of reclaiming the day. I can be that same negative Nellie. I’m also struck by how much attitude and how we start the day helps – Tara and Princess into Queen I. I’ve been thinking a lot about how multi-tasking trains us to not enjoy our lives. I’m seeing the trend since the Internet and email became widely available – in 2000 for me – and how since then the sense of depth and being able to sink into my creative and spiritual and human life has diminished. I know this is not an original thought but it frightens me. I read an article about this in the Atlantic Monthly last year that was very tongue in cheek about how are brains are being taught to not comphrend, to not take in anything. It’s complicated for me by mid-life ADD. A topic perhaps for a thirty-day blog experiment – how to let go of multi-tasking?? I adore your insights everbody! Marisa, when you wrote, “It was such a small thing, but I feel totally different than I would had I tried to write inside today.” And Tricia, your poignant post about your mother – sigh. I’ve sure been missing my daddy lately. I so wish he could met my new beau, he would like him so much! Rebecca, LOVE the idea of reclaiming the day. I can be that same negative Nellie. I’m also struck by how much attitude and how we start the day helps – Tara and Princess into Queen I. I’ve been thinking a lot about how multi-tasking trains us to not enjoy our lives. I’m seeing the trend since the Internet and email became widely available – in 2000 for me – and how since then the sense of depth and being able to sink into my creative and spiritual and human life has diminished. I know this is not an original thought but it frightens me. I read an article about this in the Atlantic Monthly last year that was very tongue in cheek about how are brains are being taught to not comphrend, to not take in anything. It’s complicated for me by mid-life ADD. A topic perhaps for a thirty-day blog experiment – how to let go of multi-tasking??

]]> By: Tricia http://www.comfortqueen.com/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/comment-page-1#comment-19 Tricia Fri, 27 Jun 2008 02:33:16 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/#comment-19 Your question came at a pertinent time for me as I grieve my mom's passing. I think just allowing myself to be as I need to be in every moment is really a blessing right now. I've resolved to give up the "shoulds" as long as I need to--that means not returning calls, emails or letters until I am ready; letting go of the guilt about etiquette and timeliness; and coasting at work if I need to. So my gift to myself this week--finally getting that pedicure that my mom gave me a gift certificate for months ago. A reminder that life is too short not to show ourselves a little slack and just indulge in a simple pleasure. I only wish she were here to share that joy. Your question came at a pertinent time for me as I grieve my mom’s passing. I think just allowing myself to be as I need to be in every moment is really a blessing right now. I’ve resolved to give up the “shoulds” as long as I need to–that means not returning calls, emails or letters until I am ready; letting go of the guilt about etiquette and timeliness; and coasting at work if I need to. So my gift to myself this week–finally getting that pedicure that my mom gave me a gift certificate for months ago. A reminder that life is too short not to show ourselves a little slack and just indulge in a simple pleasure. I only wish she were here to share that joy.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.comfortqueen.com/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/comment-page-1#comment-18 Rebecca Thu, 26 Jun 2008 20:11:17 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/#comment-18 A friend emailed me and wished me a happy two week anniversary - I've been in early retirement now for two weeks. I'm struggling just a bit, well maybe a lot, as the world as I've known it changes and just opens out before me...because that is soooo scary, when the excuses are gone....and you really can do anything you want....and suddenly realize that maybe you don't know exactly what that is or just how to go about it anyway. This third week I intend to reclaim, restore, rephrase....hmmm, what is the word I want? For example: I found myself writing a whiney email to my friend, how my day wasn't going as planned, listing all the things I wasn't getting accomplished that were on my to do list....then I stopped, and decided to Reclaim The Day.....and I rewrote my experiences from a different, more joyful and grateful, a, heck each day is my own perspective....writing down the wonderful experiences, like not having to drive in bad weather if I didn't want to, the artists book I'd looong looked for that was found and offered to me, the three wonderful art books I discovered (in my "unproductive" time) and look forward to receiving, the ability to do just spend my day however I want even if that is nothing traditionally productive. Each day to breath, say thank you, look, really look and SEE, around me, and just let the creativity flow, rather then blocking the stream, let it run wild and maybe a little messy. It is good to have you back Jennifer. Maybe I will also reread Comfort Queen, yet again, it is still my favorite. A friend emailed me and wished me a happy two week anniversary – I’ve been in early retirement now for two weeks. I’m struggling just a bit, well maybe a lot, as the world as I’ve known it changes and just opens out before me…because that is soooo scary, when the excuses are gone….and you really can do anything you want….and suddenly realize that maybe you don’t know exactly what that is or just how to go about it anyway.

This third week I intend to reclaim, restore, rephrase….hmmm, what is the word I want? For example: I found myself writing a whiney email to my friend, how my day wasn’t going as planned, listing all the things I wasn’t getting accomplished that were on my to do list….then I stopped, and decided to Reclaim The Day…..and I rewrote my experiences from a different, more joyful and grateful, a, heck each day is my own perspective….writing down the wonderful experiences, like not having to drive in bad weather if I didn’t want to, the artists book I’d looong looked for that was found and offered to me, the three wonderful art books I discovered (in my “unproductive” time) and look forward to receiving, the ability to do just spend my day however I want even if that is nothing traditionally productive.

Each day to breath, say thank you, look, really look and SEE, around me, and just let the creativity flow, rather then blocking the stream, let it run wild and maybe a little messy.

It is good to have you back Jennifer. Maybe I will also reread Comfort Queen, yet again, it is still my favorite.

]]> By: Princess to Queen I http://www.comfortqueen.com/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/comment-page-1#comment-17 Princess to Queen I Thu, 26 Jun 2008 18:57:29 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/how-are-those-habits-working-for-you/#comment-17 My goal...no dammit, I will! Open my day with my planner and my computer while in a bed... not in my office. If it is on my planner to do so, only then will I go into my office. Thanks, Jennifer for the question. Better questions being asked, will result in better answers/solutions. You're good at crafting questions...how about you doing a training teleconference about the art of crafting questions...? My goal…no dammit, I will! Open my day with my planner and my computer while in a bed… not in my office. If it is on my planner to do so, only then will I go into my office. Thanks, Jennifer for the question. Better questions being asked, will result in better answers/solutions. You’re good at crafting questions…how about you doing a training teleconference about the art of crafting questions…?

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