Comments on: Loving Missing Lilly

By: Shayla

Shayla — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 21:29:18 +0000

I just found your website after noticing you on maestroconferences. I too have teenaged daughters. The physical pangs I feel when I think about them, interact with them, wish for more and am glad to be rid of them (for a day or for a week) are the same ones I felt when they were toddlers. This being a mom stuff is really quite expanding. My vessel stretches with each intense emotion. I am able to feel more and more and then, drain it all away like aromatic bath water soothing but no longer serving. I think I am going to enjoy your newsletter. Thank you for today’s blog.

By: Julie B

Julie B — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:50:31 +0000

London, 1983. The foyer of the Plaza Hotel, Bayswater. The queue to the public telephone in the Very Public Lobby, which then led to the Ladies’ bathroom – a trail of soggy, red-eyed girls (Aussies, Kiwis, Canadians, American, Brits…) who’d been talking to their folks up to 12000 miles away. (No such trail to the men’s room , bless them). And then the next adventure… The world was our oyster, our parents safely ensconced at home. (You mean, they had a life? That didn’t involve Me?) I Loved them and Missed them and Stayed and Spread my wings and Grew. When my mother’s tears stopped some months later (I travelled for a year) and she could once again walk into my room without dissolving, she found her own wings, which had been wrapped around me for 21 years, and began to step into the world as herself (guitar lessons, etc.) My favour from God has been to learn from my mother’s misery and to embrace the spreading of my son’s 18-year old wings as they take him into the world (and out of mine). May he have many adventures without me (I’d love to see the pics, Nick )

By: Julie B

Julie B — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:46:40 +0000

{Hugs to you Sally, this is not the easiest of paths we have chosen, as the mother. May your girl make a full and speedy recovery. May you find relief in pondering her sweet future when she is well (and the adventures you two will have)…}

By: Sally

Sally — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 17:02:00 +0000

Wow, those questions are great; helping me re-frame my current experience. My daughter, my only child, brilliant, beautiful, age 24, fell downstairs last week and suffered a traumatic brain injury. I had the same reaction as you when I got that phone call – if I could have dissolved into the phone lines and flowed like light from WI to NY, I would have. It took me 24 hrs to get to her side. I’m back home now (I’m also caring for my own mom who has dementia), she’s in a rehab center, and doing well – we expect a full recovery thank God…but you reminded me to focus on the incredible blessing of being her Mom, no matter what, even if it means I can’t be by her side right now. I am definitely going to start looking for God’s favors…every day. Thank you!

By: Shawnnita

Shawnnita — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 08:55:42 +0000

I’m new here. I’m trying new positive things in my life.

I’m using this favor to see that there are others out there that want to or *are* getting it.

Thanks for this post.