Comments on: Raw Radical UnRuly Dreams – Part 1 http://www.comfortqueen.com/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:06:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Carrie http://www.comfortqueen.com/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/comment-page-1#comment-119 Carrie Wed, 13 Feb 2008 19:59:58 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/#comment-119 Thank you for writing this. I just discovered your website and blog after seeing a reference to one of your books (which I plan to read soon!) I was really struck by your comments about the taboo of letting go and releasing the desire for growth, more more more, etc. I am on the verge of resigning from my corporate business career at age 30. I have been very successful in my career, promoted multiple times at my company, and making more money than I ever thought I would at this age. To the outside world it would be absolutely crazy for me to leave. However, I am uninspired, bored, and simply not passionate about my work. Thankfully my husband and I have saved well over the years so we are financially secure and his income is enough to support us. I have no specific plan after quitting other than to take a break for an undefined amount of time and then do whatever it is that I may want to do. Not sure what all that will be yet... spend more time outdoors, travel, explore photography, grow some of our own food... This is a huge step for me, moving away from the achievement oriented lifestyle I have long pursued, and moving into unknown territory that is simply about being me - not what I think everyone thinks I should do or be. I meet with my bosses in a week or so. I am afraid. Afraid they will try to talk me out of it, point out everything I am "giving up", express disappointment in me, etc. It will be hard. But I can't back down from finally being me. Why do I feel guilty about letting them down, why are we taught that simply "being" is selfish... "doing" has its place but there would be much more peace and happiness in the world if we all focused a little more on just "being". Thanks again for your posts. Thank you for writing this. I just discovered your website and blog after seeing a reference to one of your books (which I plan to read soon!)

I was really struck by your comments about the taboo of letting go and releasing the desire for growth, more more more, etc.

I am on the verge of resigning from my corporate business career at age 30. I have been very successful in my career, promoted multiple times at my company, and making more money than I ever thought I would at this age. To the outside world it would be absolutely crazy for me to leave. However, I am uninspired, bored, and simply not passionate about my work. Thankfully my husband and I have saved well over the years so we are financially secure and his income is enough to support us. I have no specific plan after quitting other than to take a break for an undefined amount of time and then do whatever it is that I may want to do. Not sure what all that will be yet… spend more time outdoors, travel, explore photography, grow some of our own food… This is a huge step for me, moving away from the achievement oriented lifestyle I have long pursued, and moving into unknown territory that is simply about being me – not what I think everyone thinks I should do or be. I meet with my bosses in a week or so. I am afraid. Afraid they will try to talk me out of it, point out everything I am “giving up”, express disappointment in me, etc. It will be hard. But I can’t back down from finally being me. Why do I feel guilty about letting them down, why are we taught that simply “being” is selfish… “doing” has its place but there would be much more peace and happiness in the world if we all focused a little more on just “being”.

Thanks again for your posts.

]]> By: m http://www.comfortqueen.com/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/comment-page-1#comment-118 m Sat, 05 Jan 2008 16:21:31 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/#comment-118 nothing wrong in having a slow time and slow pace of life without having to achieve nothing wrong in having a slow time and slow pace of life without having to achieve

]]> By: Helga http://www.comfortqueen.com/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/comment-page-1#comment-117 Helga Sat, 22 Dec 2007 13:34:31 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/#comment-117 it is what it is. good solstice all, helga it is what it is.

good solstice all,
helga

]]> By: Nancy http://www.comfortqueen.com/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/comment-page-1#comment-116 Nancy Sat, 22 Dec 2007 10:43:31 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/#comment-116 Dear Jennifer, All fields must lie fallow for a season or they lose their fertility and become a wasteland. For some of us that season is longer than for others. Thank you for your columns and your courage. Nancy Dear Jennifer,
All fields must lie fallow for a season or they lose their fertility and become a wasteland. For some of us that season is longer than for others. Thank you for your columns and your courage.
Nancy

]]> By: Tracy http://www.comfortqueen.com/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/comment-page-1#comment-115 Tracy Sat, 22 Dec 2007 04:45:25 +0000 http://www.comfortqueen.com/_wp/raw-radical-unruly-dreams-part-1/#comment-115 Jennifer, I haven't written for a very long time, but your post has really resonated with me, and others that followed, especially Shelley's. I also am experiencing the first year of not being interested in Christmas, and it makes me a bit sad that I've lost that sense of celebration and magic. Its not depression for me either... I am also just bone tired. And reaching the end of a chapter in my life, I think. Turning points are hard for me, and this one especially hard as I begin to entertain leaving my role as a stay at home mom and returning to the workforce. Not for any other reason other than, I just don't have it in me anymore. It has nothing to do with my kids - I have the greatest three kids in the world, but I think it has to do with the fact that I feel sucked up. Sucked up by that life, and its become a life that I don't feel is mine anymore. And its SO hard to admit that... but now that I've said it, its also SO freeing. And you hit the nail on the head for me Jen, when you said you've run out of dreams. So have I. And how odd it feels to say I need to work outside the home again to begin to appreciate the downtime needed to reflect on dreams... many women may read this and think 'good god woman, wouldn't I love to be a stay at home mom?!?' But the fact that I no longer envy my own life is a signal its time to shake it up a bit. So I can appreciate my quiet at home moments, my kids, a world outside my cozy walls of home. I may regret it later, and think 'what was I thinking???', but you just know when you've reached the end... when you're just too tired of being it all to everyone - especially at this time of year. And now I need something just for me. Jennifer, I haven’t written for a very long time, but your post has really resonated with me, and others that followed, especially Shelley’s. I also am experiencing the first year of not being interested in Christmas, and it makes me a bit sad that I’ve lost that sense of celebration and magic. Its not depression for me either… I am also just bone tired. And reaching the end of a chapter in my life, I think. Turning points are hard for me, and this one especially hard as I begin to entertain leaving my role as a stay at home mom and returning to the workforce. Not for any other reason other than, I just don’t have it in me anymore. It has nothing to do with my kids – I have the greatest three kids in the world, but I think it has to do with the fact that I feel sucked up. Sucked up by that life, and its become a life that I don’t feel is mine anymore. And its SO hard to admit that… but now that I’ve said it, its also SO freeing. And you hit the nail on the head for me Jen, when you said you’ve run out of dreams. So have I. And how odd it feels to say I need to work outside the home again to begin to appreciate the downtime needed to reflect on dreams… many women may read this and think ‘good god woman, wouldn’t I love to be a stay at home mom?!?’ But the fact that I no longer envy my own life is a signal its time to shake it up a bit. So I can appreciate my quiet at home moments, my kids, a world outside my cozy walls of home. I may regret it later, and think ‘what was I thinking???’, but you just know when you’ve reached the end… when you’re just too tired of being it all to everyone – especially at this time of year. And now I need something just for me.

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