I adore the movie “Frida.”

I saw it for the first times a few weeks ago. It was like being in her head. While on acid.

Which was probably what it was like to be in her head a lot of the time.

It also made me jump up and down on the couch like Tom Cruise on Oprah (okay, not really) yelling to Bob

But I want to know more about her creative process! Where did she get her ideas? How did she learn to draw? Why did she wear those clothes? How did she get to be her?“

Bob rolled his eyes (lovingly) and went into the kitchen to take his vitamins before bed.

I collapsed on the couch and moaned about wanting to know more about how she came to trust her own vision until I got up to take out the dogs – who were, admittedly, slightly edgy now from my loud histrionics.

I know, from reading Frida’s diaries, that she didn’t always trust her talent or her vision.

But even though she didn’t, she kept listening and painting. That’s what I find exhilarating.

That’s what I want excites me. How artists keep claiming their voice, their vision, their ideas– even in the face of great resistance and pain and inner turmoil. Especially the latter. (And yes, for me, we are all artists, if we choose to see life that way.)

Because we all need reflections and examples and stories that proclaim, “This is permission to love what you love and create what you want to create in action!”

Your assignment: Go forth and find stories of creative agency.

They don’t need to be stories of artists or writers or even of traditional “success.”  Shoe makers, economists, inventors, fairytale gatherers – look wide! Search memoirs, biographies, TV shows, newspaper articles, blogs, the annals of history. Believe me, examples will show up when you begin looking!

Maybe you discover someone describing how they showed up in their marriage.

Or how, mid-life, they began practicing meditation.

Or how, after a company-wide restructuring, they energized the forces and led a team to new vistas.

Find stories that reflect what you need to learn: How to dare, how to articulate your vision, how to stick with the incoherent bits until they become something, how to let your yearning guide you…

Within these stories, look for the tiny moments and threads of permission – not just the big “aha!” moments.

When you find a small moment, enter into it.

Go into the feeling you imagine this person experiencing, the thrill, the “Aha!”, the “Oh shit, can I do it?” and savor your own, “Oh, that’s how they did it. I sort of get it!”

Forget trying to figure out how YOU will do it yourself. That’s not the point.

Instead, use these mirrors of permission to imprint your brain with the feeling of permission, of self-trust, of claiming your experience. Doing this only takes a few seconds but can make a huge difference. Once you know what it feels like, you’ll more easily recognize it again and again!

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Part One:  Static Free Authenticity here.

Part Two: Tuning into Your Essence

And number three is… The Signal Raising Power of Permission

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