Today’s post is from Jacqueline Wales, who is known the world over as The Black Belt Millionaire. Her unique programs have helped women around the globe develop strong personal success, confident communication and clear visions of their goals. She is the author of five books, including the new book, The Fearless Factor.
When you are caught up in fear about a situation what happens to your body? It goes into flight or fight syndrome. Anxiety sets in, stomach goes into a knot, palms are sweaty and we would rather be anywhere but in that place. This is a time when we really need to be taking care of ourselves.
Start with a deep breath. You know we take breathing for granted, but in fear, we hold our breath, or we breathe very shallow. So start with a long slow inhalation, hold it and then let it go…..slowly. Do this three times. It calms the mind and lets the blood flow through your veins again.
When you make a mistake, this is a great opportunity to congratulate yourself on having the opportunity to make another choice. I like to use the word ‘Next’ when I’m confronted with a mistake or a failure.
I also like to say I’m failing my way to success.
It’s life’s way of letting you know you need more information, and if you’re smart, you don’t have to be told twice. However, if you do make the same mistake twice, then you can relax and have some compassion for yourself.
Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend and instead of berating yourself, ask what you could have done differently. Forgive the mistakes. We all make them. It’s what being human is all about.
What I’ve learned over a lifetime of making mistakes is to ask for forgiveness and move on. When we get hung up in the hamster cage of self-incrimination, endless what if’s and guilt, the only person we’re serving is the gremlin in your mind. Tell yourself ‘you’re sorry’ and move on. Ask forgiveness of those whose lives you’ve impacted if necessary, and move on.
Being your worst enemy is easy. Being your best friend demands compassion, love and forgiveness from you.
At the very least…..give yourself a bath and light a candle. It takes a load off, even if it’s only a band-aid on the problem.
Do take time for you. Self-care is self-love. When you learn how to love yourself, others will love you more for it.
You can sign up for a free Fearless Factor Report, and you can get your own copy of The Fearless Factor. For more information about Jacqueline and The Fearless Factor, visit Jacqueline’s YouTube channel.
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2 Julie, the Digital Marketing Diva Oct 1, 2009
Thank you so much for this comment, “When you make a mistake, this is a great opportunity to congratulate yourself on having the opportunity to make another choice. I like to use the word ‘Next’ when I’m confronted with a mistake or a failure.”
That describes exactly what I need to do. I get hung up on not making mistakes, which makes me afraid. Thanks for reminding me that it’s okay to fail.
I recently wrote about this very thing on my blog because I am working on it. Thanks again.
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