Over at the Comfort Cafe, at the end of each month, I offer the gals a handful of deeply insightful review questions (okay, maybe not always deeply; how about usefully insightful?).
I do this because, as I say in The Life Organizer, too often I watch clients forget to notice what is actually happening.
Are you moving closer to what you want and, most of all, are you enjoying the journey?
And how would you know?
A company knows if they are losing or making money. But the journey of your soul, your heart, your desires, isn’t quite a measurable.
But that doesn’t mean you don’t give up on assessing your trajectory.
It’s so tempting to get caught up in doing what you think you should do (read the comments on my last post) and then you do what you think you should do but it isn’t getting you where you want to go but you don’t really realize that because you are so busy doing, shoulding, trying. (Read that sentence really fast.)
You need some way to step back and see!
That’s one thing we do at the Cafe – lots of gentle sticking our thumbs up in the air to see if the wind is blowing the right way (weird metaphor but I’m keeping it because I have a pain pill hangover form my root canal yesterday and I can’t think. Can I just say how much I hate, hate, hate pain pills? Well, I just did. The fuss in my brain, it’s like the Hoh Rainforest in here).
An April Heart’s Review
The ways I have appreciated and inhabited my body this month include….
A moment (or two or five) when I am proud of myself for turning toward life, for opening, for risking include….
Five ways I took action on what matters most to me this month include…
A way conditions of enoughness helped me stay sane and in touch with myself this month was… Conditions of enoughness are a tool I use at my longer retreats and at the Cafe that just rock but are a bit of a mouthful to explain so you might name some ways you knew what you did or created was enough this month.
I found the good in life this month when I noticed…
You probably won’t want to recap your month in the comments but do tell me if you review your month or how you keep an eye on the trajectory of your amazing life. I love learning from, and with, you.
3 responses so far ↓
1 Jennifer Apr 30, 2010
The ways I have appreciated and inhabited my body this month include….
doing my PT without feeling like it was a should; appreciating my body as it is; having sex, being with my body’s pain, dropping the story I can never be strong again
A moment (or two or five) when I am proud of myself for turning toward life, for opening, for risking include….
talking to Bob about how I was feeling, talking to my therapist openly, really being myself on the writing retreat even though I felt so out of my league – so what?, writing the book (it’s on COS’s and I’ll be sharing it with you all soon) and staying with the process even when I felt lost, going to a party and not just talking to the people I know…
Five ways I took action on what matters most to me this month include…
I wrote the book, I took time for myself, I worked on my fears, I claimed what I knew instead of looking for expert’s opinions, I
A way COE’s helped me stay sane and in touch with myself this month was…
I made sure I named the night before COE’s for the next day and I did the same for my vacation and retreat.
I found the good in life this month when I noticed…
How Bob loves me, how amazing poetry and the writers at the writer’s retreat were, when I was standing in the shower and thought “What I do is good like this and it is enough,” a million times admiring Lilly’s essence, a hundred times admiring my lilac bush!
2 Hilary May 2, 2010
Ow, teeth!-sympathy for you. What is the point of having wildly, neurotically hypersensitive nerve endings in our teeth, anyway?
Most of my reviewing happens weekly (mastermind calls, wonderful things) and annually. Thank you for adding monthly (I mean, beyond the usual ‘Wait, where did it go?’ one) – and for the gift of questions – and for the whole idea of questions as gift.
3 Hannah May 3, 2010
Thanks for a thought provoking post! During the last couple of months, I’d become pretty complacent about challenging my beliefs. There’s still a lot of stuff there from years back that needs to be questioned – deserves to be questioned and I that’s the best thing I achieved in April.
Every story examined and every myth busted opens up exciting new possibilities for the future
Yay for taking risks and expanding the trajectory!