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You are Called

If you are here unfaithfully with us, you’re causing terrible damage.”

Dear Rumi, he knows how to get to the heart of the matter, doesn’t he?

If you are here unfaithfully with us, you’re causing terrible damage.

What is Rumi talking about?

Near as I can tell, he’s talking about cheating on your calling. Denying it.

Near as I can tell, Rumi knew, that minx, that at some point, your calling was going to come calling to you.

Darling, that time is now.

It’s calling and calling loud.

Woo-hoo! I’m over here. C’mon over and let’s get it on.

It’s calling you, and me, and all of us, like never before.

Please, don’t cover your ears.  I need your company on this adventure. We all need your company.

And if you do cover your ears, turn away, get busy elsewhere, know that it will keep calling you, keep following you, keep throwing hints – sometimes pointy jabby hints. It wants you that badly. It won’t quit.

It wants you to see that all the self-care and soul searching and creative voice finding you’ve done, all the fear-busting, course-taking, yoga-bending, tribe-building, and general spiffying, is so beautiful and it’s all been preparation.

Holy preparation.

Preparing you to live faithfully and boldly in care of authentic selfhood.

Let me call upon Parker Palmer to help explain:

What we see is simple but often ignored: the movements that transform us, our relations, and our world, emerge from the lives of people who decide to care for their authentic selfhood… the people who plant the seeds of movements make a critical decision: they decide to live “divided no more.”

They decide no longer to act on the outside in a way that contradicts some truth about themselves that they hold deeply on the inside. They decide to clam authentic selfhood and act it out – and their decisions ripple out to transform the society in which they live, serving the selfhood of millions of others.”

Some of us educated spiritual types may have gotten stuck thinking that claiming our authentic self was only about us, about our passions, our creative fulfillment, our bank accounts.

Oh darling, how adorable. I’m here to tell you: that was just step one!

Now comes step two and beyond. (To infinity and beyond…)

You are ready. As ready as you need to be. Promise.

(And if you think you don’t have the energy or the time here’s the secret: you get more than you give, in all ways, when you work faithfully for the true and undivided life.

You are called:

To see that which is untrue, unfair, false, restrictive, abhorrent, unjust, and otherwise un, that which your authentic self can no longer pretend is not there.

You are called to liberate, to hold, to love a very small  part of that un, the part that most divides you from yourself, so that the places in you, and me, and all of us, that are also divided and shamed and shoved into corners because of that wrong, can be united.

Can be free.

This authentic self stuff is a deeply political and radically act.

Who knew?

Oh and least you think you are being called to be different than you are – say more good or noble or selfish – nope.

It’s the undivided and authentic writ large, expanded, which means being more you and doing the knitting together of savoring and saving in utter youness.

Good, right?

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  • 2 Megan Matthieson Oct 6, 2010

    Oh! So yes! Thank you Jen. This relates VERY MUCH to my post today. Becoming more yourself. And the calling to do that. That it’s not a selfless act, but fulfilling and giving act.

  • 3 Heather Plett Oct 6, 2010

    Amen, amen, AMEN! And a “WOOT” to boot!

    There is a lot of incredible energy bubbling around these days. We are gonna ROCK this world!

    I LOVE the fact that we were working on similar posts at the very same time last night. :-)

  • 4 Jennifer Hofmann Oct 6, 2010

    Amen, Jen. Amen.

    All I can do is restate what you’ve already so beautifully said: we are not here for ourselves alone, the gifts we have and the work we do to discover them is meant to be shared — courageously — with others.

    There’s no guarantee that it won’t be scary, or hard, or that sharing won’t always be valued, the point is to offer. In the wise words of Shirley Chisholm, “Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth.

    You’re singing my song, sister.

  • 5 Linda Pelletier Oct 6, 2010

    No wonder I am soooo tired. Not living up to my full potential. There is just so much fear about the ego getting in the way, of being too selfish, of coming across all knowing when I feel I really don’t know just in those small infinite moments when things are crystal clear. Maybe I need to just let go and welcome the crystalline clearness that is Spirit and all knowing. Maybe then my ego will not come into play and I will not be selfish I will only be self knowing, self caring, self motivating. Why can’t these crystal aha’s switch on all the time. Oh that’s right we live in the real world and the crap gets in the way and the self doubts creep up and the little girl cowardly saying I am not worthy. When it is really all the soul can do to push thru that makes me tired. It is struggling and knocking reminding me….hey did you forget about me!!!!! No I didn’t….I just needed re-minding! Thanks! Now go in peace, serenity and love which is yours always in all ways!

  • 6 Virginia Oct 6, 2010

    You DO have a way with words and a sense of TIMING that’s infallible! I need this reminder today (and every day so I’ve saved a copy for easy reference to print out once I’ve solved my printer problems) … to keep me moving forward as my authentic self, surrendering the habitual perfectionist tendencies that lead me to procrastinate endlessly. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
    Hugs and blessings,

  • 7 Joely Black Oct 6, 2010

    A wonderful post, and a great reminder. As the others have said, perfectly timed as well. Thank you.

  • 8 Sharon Martinelli Oct 6, 2010

    Oh my, the ripples. Yesterday, a dear friend of mine was reflecting that we are sending out ripples and inviting others to be touched by those ripples and join the momentum – ever so slightly and gracefully. Nothing forced (sound familiar) – just ripples upon ripples upon even more ripples.
    Such a beautiful post and a nudge in the right direction to remind myself “how dare me not to share myself with the world” because no one else can possibly tell my story.

  • 9 Rachelle Mee-Chapman Oct 6, 2010

    I’m resonating with this like a gong Jen. For so long I’ve been soulcoaching with glee and gusto on the one hand; and wondering “is self-care all there is?” on the other.

    I’m convinced that at some point in our self-care/soulcare journey we turn another corner and BAM! the world is waiting there for our wisdom and power.

    (I wonder, for many of us, if this space comes to us when our kids get to a certain independence? )

    May we all move towards “where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meets.” F. Beuchner

    Yours on the Journey,


  • 10 Juli Oct 6, 2010

    thank you. thank you. thank you.
    it’s a bitch to feel divided within, knowing that i’m not really divided, but only think i am. you are a blessing in my life.

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  • 12 Uzma Oct 6, 2010

    Fantastic stuff..To be true to oneself is so powerful..Who knew ? :-)
    Just wrote a post inspired by Rumi. Have also just been learning that being true to oneself is hard work, worthy work, that permeates and touches the world.
    Thank u for a great post. Love it

  • 13 Paula Tarrant Oct 6, 2010

    Thank you, Jen, for plucking the chord of the deeper vibration we all are resonating to in our comments here. You lovingly embrace us while calling us to task.

    One of the greatest obstacles to boldly live in authentic selfhood is the illusion that it does not include the “uns” you speak of….”to liberate, to hold, to love a very small part of that un, the part that most divides you from yourself.”

    When we remember that wholeness means including the “un” bits of ourselves, and loving them as unabashedly as a mother loves her errant children, it is then that we truly, truly become bold and confident and comfortable in our authentic skin.

    And then,like breathing, living our calling becomes an unconscious act.

  • 14 Jenn Givler Oct 6, 2010

    O. M. G. This. This is what I needed to hear today. Exactly.

    And Jen H. you added to it beautifully.

    Thank you ladies *bowing*

  • 15 Alison Marks Oct 6, 2010

    REALLY good! Jen, you are such a master at shining up the gems that are surrounding us everywhere so we can see them sparkle. I’m inspired to be more me. And I just love that you have the compassion to call all my navel-gazing “adorable”. <3

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  • 17 Lyn Hopper Oct 7, 2010

    Parker Palmer is one of my favorites! From Let Your Life Speak: “Our deepest calling is to grow into our own authentic selfhood, whether or not it conforms to some image of who we ought to be. As we do so, we will not only find the joy that every human being seeks–we will also find our path of authentic service in the world. True vocation joins self and service, as Frederick Buechner asserts when he defines vocation as ‘the place where your deep gladness meets the world’s deep need.”

    And I’m also reminded of this: “The antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest. The antidote to exhaustion is whole-heartedness.” ~Brother David Steindl-Rast, from David Whyte’s Midlife and the Great Unknown: Finding Courage and Clarity Through Poetry (audio CD)

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  • 19 Theresa Oct 7, 2010

    Wow. I’m just blown away by what you’ve written!

    It is really helping me to validate myself for the changes I’ve been making, the ones that look so subtle to the outside world and yet are earth-shaking to me, changing the way I live and the way I think and feel about myself. I haven’t been giving myself credit for those changes, my transformation.

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  • 20 Susan Gallacher-Turner Oct 8, 2010

    Thanks for your radical writing.

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